Path to great sex

Sexuality refers to the feelings and responses that are connected with the human desire for sex. Sex is, no doubt, good for married couples. But it thrives best when both partners involved are in love. For this reason, husbands should focus on the stimulation of their wives’ hearts instead of relying on manual stimulation.

Openness is the key to the most beneficial type of sex that a couple can ever hope to have. And passionate sex is the quickest way to ensure the growth of a marriage.

Intimacy develops slowly and commitment takes shape gradually, while passion develops very fast.

Also, intimate sex between married couples often results in emotional safety. Consequently, when there is understanding in a marriage, both partners are eager to express their true sexual feelings.

Most people seem to define intimacy as a state in which a couple is having passionate sex. But the truth is it is much more than that.

Intimacy is an attitude. It is how you get along with your partner all the time. It has to be continuous in order for to be fulfilling. If you truly want to enjoy great sex, you should maintain closeness with your spouse even when you are away from home.

Here are few tips on how to achieve this.

In marriage, it is essential to be sensitive, considerate, respectful and affectionate towards your partner. There are many things that spouses can do to strengthen their relationship. In the first place, a mutual give-and-take attitude enables them to relax whenever they are alone together. Due to the stress, which the average Nigerian couples face every day, it is necessary to indulge in a lot of caresses in the privacy of your home.

Caressing has a really calming and soothing effect on a spouse that is stressed out after a hard day’s work. So, when you both are home, lie on your side with your legs bent so that you fit together like two spoons in a drawer. Once you are snuggled together, lie still and let go of tension.

Do not to talk too much or move around. Breathe heavily and rhythmically and listen to your partner’s breathing at the same time. Close your eyes and let your imagination travel down memory lane to the period when you were still dating and confessing undying love for one another. Avoid sexual intercourse. Such demonstration of affection is just meant to bring both of you closer than ever.

On weekends when both of you are not under pressure to go to work or attend social functions, it is best to lie in bed together and look into each other’s eyes. Don’t talk, but watch each other in silence.

At first, you may feel uneasy or shy, but never mind. At the level of the subconscious, this is a good exercise for couples who really wish to bond together.

There are other ways to perform such exercises. For example, husband, you can sit with your back against the wall of your room, or on a chair in the garden. Then let your wife rest her head on your chest and wrap her arms around you. Share this embrace for a few minutes. Close your eyes, listen to each other’s breathing, feel each other’s warmth, and feel your hearts beat together.

Wife, you can run your fingers up and down his back, while he strokes your shoulder, neck, face and hair. By this, you will be sending a message of intimacy, which is good in a marriage.

Husbands, note that when your wives rest their heads on your chest or shoulders and stroke your back, it does not necessarily mean that they desire sex. On the contrary, they just want to be close to you. They want to feel that you belong to them and to reassure themselves that such a rare moment is exclusively for them and no one else.

Active penetrative sex can take place as you amuse your wife.

Eating together: Path to great sex

Husband, when was the last time you allowed your wife to show you how best to give her pleasure in bed? And wife, when did you last lie in bed and invite your man to come show you the stuff he is made of when it comes to sexual surprises?

Today, we are going to learn about sexual trips that can make a couple whisper ‘unusual’ words in each other’s ears and ask for more. One explorative path to great sex that many couple neglect is the habit of eating together. Needless to add, a couple that eat together always sleep together.

Eating together is like giving your partner a love potion, because a delicious meal can be a prelude to sex. The act of cooking together can be a form of foreplay and the smell of food can ignite intimacy, especially when couples eat some aphrodisiacs food items together.

Certain natural love potions, otherwise known as edible aphrodisiacs, can turn up the heat in a couples’ sexuality by improving blood flow to the genitals, enhancing performance and pleasure and ultimately put a couple in the mood for lovemaking.

Some couples have discovered that fruits such as banana, cucumber and carrot speak for themselves on that score. Newly weds are mostly encouraged to drink honey wine during the first month of marriage to improve their sexual stamina. That is how the word ‘honeymoon’ came from honey.

Garlic is rich in antioxidants that protect against cell damage. It is said to arouse sexual desire and increase the blood flow to the genitals.

Research has shown that the aroma of local popcorn induces blood flow to the male sex organ and the combination of cucumber and coconut makes some women ready for sex.

Of course, if you want great sex, you have to take care of your health. Being overweight may affect your libido, especially if you don’t feel attractive as a spouse. Extra body fat raises the spectre of elevated blood glucose levels that can damage the blood vessels and nerves that allow for arousal and sexual pleasure. It also increases the risk of high blood pressure and clogged arteries.

During menopause, women lose 90 percent of their circulating estrogen, which may result in less blood flowing to the genitals and diminished capacity for sexual arousal. Body fat offers some protection because, like the woman’s ovaries, it produces estrogen.

Another trick that does the magic is sending some romantic and erotic text messages to your spouse, such as, “I’m just thinking about you right now and I am full of some sexual surprises for you,” or “Hurry back and come to where your heart is.”

At home, when you are certain the coast is clear and the environment is favorable, start off sexual exploration by saying what you dream of and wish to take place between you and your spouse in a very low and seductive voice. Many husbands are eagerly waiting to hear something hot and seductive .Then try describing your feelings and sensations, like, “Mmm, you taste so good,” or “Ahhh, you feel so good pressed up against my body, are we repeating this soon?”

Researchers say that erotic expressions are so powerful that they stimulate the male libido faster than anything else. Try some tonight.

Husband, do you know that a phrase as ordinary as ‘come to me’ can instantly put your wife in the mood for sex? Whenever you envisage sex make sure you make the foreplay hot and steamy for her. Begin with small bites on the earlobes and along the contours of her neck and tease her nipples gently with your tongue.

Touch her torso lightly with your fingertips. Do this till you come into contact with her inner thighs.

Let your wife be the one to guide you once she is prepared to take the exploration to a new level. Then slowly pull her to the bed.

This type of explorative sex can last for as long as a couple desires.

If you notice that she is enjoying the act you may turn her face up and make her hold your waist and slowly begin the act again.

Nothing stops a wife to be explosive while making love with her husband.

Creating conducive atmosphere for sex

Married couples have to be mentally prepared for sex and. This includes fantasising about it several times. The reason why the sex lives of many couples die gradually is because they do not like to brood on sexual matters as much as they do other issues. It is one of the major errors that couples make. For example, during a busy day, you should stop and think about sex and be ready for breathtaking action.

However, thinking about sex does not mean you should enact pornographic scenarios in your mind all the time. You should fantasise about your partner and how you’d want sex to be the next time both of you have it. You have to be there emotionally and this means creating an atmosphere in which you can be relaxed, excited and intimate at the same time.

Good sex is based on the right mood and atmosphere. Great lovemaking is more about who you are rather than what you do. In fact, this is the most crucial aspect of sex and the memories last forever.

An average man loves to see his wife’s naked body. But wives do not take this aspect for granted. You should look your best while naked, especially when going to bed and not the other way round. Many wives look very attractive when they are going on outings and look like a grandma at home. Of course, the man will look elsewhere!

Let your husband enjoy the visual aspect of lovemaking in many other ways by wearing seductive underwear. Flickering lightings and pleasant scents produce the right ambience for sex. You may leave the bathroom door half open. This may give just enough light to feel less exposed but visually connected.

Most wives prefer to have sex without the lights on. The partially closed bathroom door is often more erotically stimulating, peaceful, reassuring and thrilling than the fully exposed and harsh bedroom light. The use of mirrors is an excellent idea.

I always advocate that couples should make sure ttheir bedroom is surrounded with mirrors since researchers have discovered that men are fond of watching what they do during lovemaking. So make the bedroom aesthetically appealing to the eyes. The idea here is that both of you agree with what happens in the bedroom. Be open and playful and go slowly.

Setting the mood is not just something you want to get over with as quickly as you can, to move on to the main event. Tease and revel in your sexual feelings that arise from the visual stimulation. And know that though I am talking about visual stimulation, how about stimulating yourself by dressing up your wife? It will put you in the mood in an instant. Buy her a set of sexy lingerie of your choice and make her to seductively flaunt it in front of you.

Scents are important when you want to create a sensual mood. The human mind is made in such a way as to connect sensations, such as the smell of perfume to erotic arousal and experiences. The way a spouse smells may enhance or impair a partner’s judgement of their spouse’s sexual stimulation and interest.

The sense of smell is extremely powerful. So, do not hesitate to shave your armpit or shape and trim your pubic hair. Use a good deodorant and also use all sorts of candles, incense and scented lotions to increase enjoyment during lovemaking. Use them to treat your partner with a nice massage, stroking and caressing their body until both of you get turned on without reservation.

Taste is not always associated with creating sexual moods, but it is a stimulating form of sexuality. The mouth, tongue and lips are erogenous zones with many nerve endings that have a particular sensual quality.

Childlike conversations, especially over dinner, or when sharing a bottle of wine together, are great mood setters. In the privacy of your bedroom, feeding each other and kissing strategic parts of the body can be erotic.

Soft music with nude dancing makes lovemaking more intimate than ever. Do not neglect to employ a wide variety of sensual touching experiences. Most spouses hate to be stimulated in the same way, same spot and same manner.

Also, breathing gently into your wife’s ear can be profoundly erotic. Wive, fulfill your husband’s fantasies and watch him glow like a new born baby.